By late tomorrow we should know who will be the elected Prime Minister. It's been an odd campaign in many ways, and a more conservative one in my opinion than the wild and expensive promises of the last one. Phill has already voted as they keep stuffing him around with work.
Em had her mentoring day yesterday but Julie had to go Wagga on business and took Emily with her and they visited some art galleries and Julie showed Emily a couple of great art supply shops which we'll check out next week. Josh seemed upset by her going, and I can understand his point of view. She has been the one in so much trouble in the past and therefore seems to get all the attention and what he sees as "special treatment". He went to school but we later got a call to say he was very upset and could we come up and talk to him. I swear that seat in the foyer of the school has the imprint of my rear end in it, we seem to spend so much time there. The support person was very kind and concerned and went and brought Josh to us. He was quite distressed but Mean Mum (me) didn't have much sympathy for him. I often think I have babied him too much and that is why he's such a sook. We took him home and he wasn't making much sense about why he was upset. I know he doesn't have a very happy time at school and they know that and do everything they can to help him. But at the end of the day, school is something they just have to accept and deal with. I talked to him about developing coping skills and told him life will always present problems and we need to learn to deal with them and talk about them and ask for help if needed. We decided to drive up to Young and he bucked up then, we got the kids a basketball hoop, net and a ball each. Emily loves basketball at school now and Josh has swapped sports to that also and I thought it would be good to give them something else to do outside to get them away from the computers. We had lunch at Maccas and apart from complaining of a sore throat Josh seemed fine. Later though he became teary again. I had my first symptoms of depression at age 11 and I am hoping that isn't what is going on with him.
Phill put the hoop up in the stables and we all had fun shooting out there.
Emily was funny last night, fussing over Josh, getting him to sip water as we thought he was dehydrated a bit. Then she got him some ice cream, and put the spa mat in the bath and got him in with some calming bubbles and even lit a candle.. I asked her if she'd be my mother! I told her that she was the biggest influence in his life at the moment, more than me, more than their father and she could really make a difference in his life and I think she took this on board.
Josh recalled an episode of the sitcom Friends where Monica got Chandler to have a bubble bath and he said it was manly as long as he had his toy boat in there. Josh sat there with his toy shark instead. Funny kid.
It's a fine line between tough love and positive nurturing at times.
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Hugs for Josh! Its hormones lovely, we are having similar behaviour down here and we don't go to school. A has been on and off for about a year and Z just started showing symptoms. He will get upset and oversensitive over nothing and then be really cranky. Needless to say there has been a lot of testosterone flying between the two of them.
Yesterday I started the day with a Crystal heart meditation to try and calm them as they were both in fine form. Then I got them to draw pictures of what they were feeling. Interesting pictures! I will have to blog them later. A drew a guardian angel that looks like a superman come wrestler with lovely white wings! Too funny! The huge fists and muscles though put me in good mind as to how he is feeling right now!
The basket ball hoop sounds like a great idea. Someone suggested to me that sport is great for boys at this age as it helps them get out their frustrations. Sadly one of mine hates outdoors so its been a struggle all round.
Hope he feels better!
Oh thank you Karisma! I'm sorry you're going through it too but SO relieved to know it's normal. I just realised that I haven't raised a boy before so had no clue what to expect. I didn't raise my older son through his teen years but now I think of it his sisters have told stories of how he was then.
I got them off to school alright this morning by being firm with him and told Em to watch out for him today.
Your comment made my day my friend. Hope you're keeping warm up there, hugs back to you.
When you figure out that fine line business, would you shoot me an e-mail and explain it to me...my girls are grown and with families of their own, and I still deal with this.
The weather has been scrumptious the past couple of days! The boys however were at it again...sigh.. A had a friend over and it was on! They wanted the computers and left Z out he went ballistic and daddy told him to let them alone so he was cranky! Thankfully, sweet soul that he is, the little sister of A's friend was feeling lonely and followed Z outside, much laughter ensued and he taught her how to do front flips on the trampoline, how to ride a ripstick and kept her busy for hours. He forgot his misery quiet quickly1 phew! He did however find time to complain to dad that mum is forcing him to go on an excursion in a couple of weeks to a biodynamic farm "geez dad, SHE wants to go NOT me! haha! suffer boy! LOL A is going to stay at friends house for a couple of days while I torture Z....my lifes mission! hehe!
Oh PS...I have to add...the girls going through PMS I kind of understood being a woman myself, the boys however? Geez! I swear they are worse! Keep strong my friend! I am with you! (double time up here!) Hugs xoxox
How wonderful that Em took on the caring role - they are close...and hopefully will become closer as the years of being teenagers pass
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