Thursday, September 23, 2010

Is that the Price of Stamps?

We sadly found out, within two days, that the cancers of both Phill's oldest sister Vonnie, and our friend Dot, have returned.  Vonnie was diagnosed with bone cancer last year and has been responding to the new treatments fairly well.  She is waiting to see whether a drug, which costs $1000 a day will be approved for her under the NHS.  What price a life eh? 
Our friends Barry and Dot came with us from the north west, where Barry worked for Phill, to Junee when we came back to the Riverina.  We socialised a lot and had some great times together.  Dot is older than us, but you wouldn't know it to look at her.  I used to envy her glamour and youthfullness and her good, good heart.  She had breast cancer years ago and had a single mastectomy and now it seems the cancer has returned although Barry wouldn't elaborate when Phill talked to him on the phone and Phill didn't ask.  Men.  I am not close to Dot and feel that ringing her may be an intrusion so I bought a nice card yesterday just to let her know we were thinking of her.  All of the scumbags walking around this world and this has to happen to two of the nicest, kindest, women I know.
So I'm scrounging around for a stamp this morning, I knew I had a book of them somewhere.  I didn't even look at the amount on them, but did a net search to make sure I had the right postage and the stamps weren't out of date.  When did they go up to 60c? (I had 60c stamps but don't remember buying them). See what communicating via the internet does to us?  I used to be a prolific letter writer.  When I was first married and living in Sydney and my mother was on the north coast I would write to her at least once a week, and sometimes more often, and she would write back.  I'm vowing now to write more handwritten "snail mail" letters.  I have memory boxes with all sorts of mementoes in them, including letters from various people who mean something to me.  Nice keepsakes.
Got woken early by Phill getting up to go to work and gave up trying to get back to sleep.   I fall asleep easily at night now so I don't panic if I don't get my required 6-7 hours or so, I know I can make up for it tonight. 
Things are not good between Phill and I right now.  Was he always this self centred and boorish?  My head is clear for the first time in years but how could I not have seen it?  Or has he changed with middle age?
Emily had a meltdown again last night over nothing and he just sat on the lounge staring at the tv drinking beer while I tried to deal with her calmly.  I ended up leaving her to it and she finally quietened down and eventually went to sleep.  He passed out on the lounge.
I was going to ban her from her last mentoring session today as last night's behaviour was totally unacceptable but I need a last day to myself before the school holidays so I will drop her off up there and go straight to Wagga where I will get my hair cut so I can streak it blonde again.  I also need to get some presents, my niece turns 40 on the 1/10, my daughter turns 30 on the 9/10 and I want to get my sister a frame for a photo of her new grandson, just as I did when Sophie, her first granddaughter, was born.  I only have a window of two hours before I have to leave to get home in time to collect the kids but I have my trip planned well.  The long car drive will be nice all by myself too. 
I looked out of the kitchen window as I made my tea this morning and a heavy fog was shrouding everything, so it looks like it will be a nice day once it lifts. 
This is the present I'm sending for Alexander.  The suit has a "removable cape".  Hope it doesn't diminish his baby superpowers when it's taken off!  The t shirt is a nod to his great Aunt, as I often say "it's all about me" as a joke.  Or is it a joke?  And three little tiny pairs of socks.
Well I'm off for a shower and to get stuff done before I drop the kids off and have a day in town all to myself.
Oh and this page is "under construction".  I tried to change my blog skin last night and it wouldn't work.  I need to wait until I have some time to figure it all out. 

4 comments:

karisma said...

Sorry about your sad news :-(

The tshirt is really cute! hugs xoxox

CailinMarie said...

hello there - sorry I've been 'out of touch' been off the computer or working lately - not nearly as uch fun as visiting my friends.
I am sad to hear about your friends with Cancer and I hope that the treatments and things all get sorted out.
That SuperMan outfit is very cute. Do you all get dressed up for Halloween or is that strickly an American thing?
Hang in there with Em -
CailinMarie

FoxyMoron said...

Thanks K.
Hi Caillin, no we don't do Halloween here, it's not part of our culture like it is in the US. What fun though, I wish we did have something like that.

Middle Child said...

Cancer is a real bastard - my younger sister Joan had breast cancer in 2002 and in remission but its always in the back of my mind that it might hit her again - they have only one child and Joan's husband got killed last year so i just hope and pray...so sorry about your friend and sister in law

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